When we work with adults who have disabilities, it’s easy to focus only on what’s happening on the surface. We see the behaviors, but we often don’t consider the underlying thoughts, feelings, and past experiences that might be driving them. As Mona Delahooke wrote in her book, Beyond Behaviors: Using Brain Science and Compassion to…
One major shift that I believe needs to happen in the field of ABA is when and how we reward behaviors. Too often, individuals—especially adults with disabilities—are asked to prove that they “deserve” autonomy, independence, or choice. In practice, this means many ABA professionals and staff require people to earn basic human rights before granting…
Have you heard the term “secondary losses”? As I was researching grief in individuals with disabilities, this term came up a lot. A “primary loss”, is the actual loss that occurred (e.g. your brother dying, your favorite roommate moving out) and it can be painful. “Secondary losses” are the losses that come because of the…
When we talk about death, many of us use softened language like “passed away,” “moved on,” or “in a better place.” This is natural—we want to be gentle. I used these phrases myself until I began researching how individuals with autism and intellectual disabilities understand grief and loss. What I found was this: using euphemisms…
Losing someone is difficult, but it can be even harder for people with disabilities. This is because, the research shows that we do not often prepare people with intellectual disabilities to handle grief and loss. In fact, in worse case scenarios there is a tendency to assume that the grief/loss won’t impact them at all….
I recently came back from a trip to Thailand where I was providing information to staff at an orphanage/school on how to be trauma informed. I have done international volunteer work in the past and have learned what to do and what not to do. Volunteer trips where you are focused on just hanging out…
How the need for social belonging can cause teens to engage in unsafe behaviors. I have been leading some groups that teach social media safety skills to neurodivergent teens. (If you are interested in these groups go to the “Online Groups” page). At the beginning of groups individuals did not know what types of red…
I recently conducted a training about how to teach online safety skills to individuals with disabilities. Before I went there I looked into the pros and cons of online relationships. It is pretty easy to identify the risks (i.e. potential exploitation, bullying, etc). But as I did some research I thought it was interesting what…